What type of mom (or dad) are you?

I read a great story today about a little guy who had been adopted. To teach him about his adoption and to help him feel loved, his mother taught him that he had a "tummy mom" and a "heart mom". I loooove this concept. Which one are you? Can you be both? Which one do you ACT like? I happen to be both...these kids came from my tummy, but they certainly have my heart. Admittedly, some days I ACT more like just old, "biological" mother instead of a loving, nurturing "heart mom". I brought them here...I feed them and clothe them and give them a place to live. But is that enough? Would that ever BE enough? I don't think so. And what about a "head mom"? I think we all know her. How many times do we parent from our heads...the things we've read, the things we've observed, the things we've been told, the things we THINK will make us a good parent? Do we stop and listen to our hearts? Do we stop THINKING and take the time to FEEL? Do we stop listening to the Supernanny or Dr. Spock or Grandma So-and-So (full of wisdom, in and of themselves, however) and take the time to listen to our children...to hear what they are telling us..."Can you read to me?" "Can you play with me?" "Can you hold me?" I think a "heart mom"... a real, true, day-to-day, honest-to-goodness "heart mom" will stop the thinking and stop the dishes and the laundry and the dinner and READ or PLAY or HUG her child. I think my kids were onto something when as little, little ones they first learned to say "hold you" instead of "hold me" as they tugged on my pant legs and held up their arms. I would hold them, but really they were holding ME...with their arms wrapped around my neck and their sticky fingers and matted hair and milky breath wrapped around my heart. And I would feel like my heart would almost burst in those sweet moments. And luckily...they still come for those hugs now, although nobody says "hold you" anymore. But I know that everytime they come to me for love they know they'll get that hug or that kiss or that squeeze...'cause I AM a HEART MOM! <3